The #nhssm chat: “What are you an avatar of?”
During a recent #nhssm chat, @MarkOneInFour started to explore what our presence in social media represented about our selves. We didn’t have time during the chat, but we did decide to explore the concept through the evening that followed. People very generously offered their feedback on how they viewed us, which was really helpful, because one can never really know how one comes across to others without specifically exploring it!
Personal reflection: if you ask for feedback, what if you get it?
It felt quite exposed to do this experiment- I wasn’t sure if anyone would respond, and if they did, what they would say about me! I was prepared to deal with any feedback that I got on the basis that it represented how I came across in social media- it didn’t reflect how people felt about me, personally, as many of the people responding don’t know me personally. I am a confident person, and I knew I had personal resources to keep myself safe during the experiment, including having friends and followers to call on for support if I felt hurt by any comments made.
Mental health warning: do you feel safe to hear feedback?
If anyone is interested in doing this experiment for themselves- just take a moment to check out that you’re okay with receiving feedback before you start.
My Johari’s Window:
(known to self and others)
able, caring, energetic, friendly, sympathetic
(known only to others)
accepting, bold, brave, clever, complex, confident, dependable, dignified, extroverted, giving, happy, helpful, idealistic, independent, intelligent, kind, knowledgeable, logical, loving, modest, nervous, observant, organised, powerful, proud, reflective, responsive, searching, self-assertive, self-conscious, sentimental, trustworthy, warm, wise, witty
(known only to self)
adaptable, calm, cheerful, ingenious, introverted, mature, patient, quiet, relaxed, religious, sensible, shy, silly, spontaneous, tense
able (13%) accepting (9%) adaptable (0%) bold (9%) brave (4%) calm (0%) caring (27%) cheerful (0%) clever (9%) complex (9%) confident (18%) dependable (13%) dignified (9%) energetic (4%) extroverted (9%) friendly (27%) giving (4%) happy (4%) helpful (50%) idealistic (9%) independent (22%) ingenious (0%) intelligent (40%) introverted (0%) kind (4%) knowledgeable (45%) logical (9%) loving (4%) mature (0%) modest (9%) nervous (4%) observant (13%) organised (9%) patient (0%) powerful (9%) proud (4%) quiet (0%) reflective (18%) relaxed (0%) religious (0%) responsive (18%) searching (9%) self-assertive (36%) self-conscious (9%) sensible (0%) sentimental (4%) shy (0%) silly (0%) spontaneous (0%) sympathetic (4%) tense (0%) trustworthy (13%) warm (27%) wise (9%) witty (9%)
As more and more people added feedback, Johari’s Window showed increasing congruence between my internal idea of how I come across, and the views expressed by the people who kindly offered feedback. This is an example of the “Wisdom of Crowds”
It is also interesting to note how this could contribute to personal resilience in the face of criticism. It can be important to remember that the views of a single person don’t reflect the general way one is seen by everyone one encounters: sometimes, we’ve all experienced a personality clash. Perhaps this is of interest to people seeking 360 degree feedback- which may be more accurate with an increasing number of contributors?
I storified the conversation, see this link:
Some of the interesting comments wee made before we settled on a hashtag to help collate the Tweets. However, once they were collated under the #JoharisWindow tag, it was easy to grab the chat:
See Twitter for more tweets, people, videos and photos for #johariswindow
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